It turns out I’d pretty much forgotten what it takes for my body to recover and regroup. My expectations weren’t realistic going into this foot surgery. Even though I’m healing well, I wasn’t ready or able to do things in the first two weeks post op that I’d looked forward to doing. And, as usual, I’m disappointed in myself. Like other times I’ve felt suspended in a slow-moving pattern of uncomfortable healing, fatigue, and low productivity, I learned lessons. And these lessons apply not only to my post op self, but to my writer self, as well.
How are you when it comes to asking for or accepting an offer of help? I’m not very good at being the one helped after decades of working as a nurse, but I’m working on that. Still, I need to remind myself that I’m not a complete Maggie at the moment. Friends have been invaluable. My husband has been my go-to guy at home, and I’ve learned to thoroughly appreciate his support and his efforts. I have many writer friends, beginner to accomplished, and, as I’ve said before, I learn from each of them. The same way that I ask for and get help at home right now, I need to seek support from other writers when my writing is in danger of running amok. How do I know if I’m writing my characters down a totally wrong path? Makes sense for me to ask other writers what they think before it becomes a complete rewrite. Or, at the very least, reconnect with the people who can help me, even if that’s another writer who’ll listen and give me the honest opinion that I need.
Getting around on a bum foot has reminded me that healing takes as long as it takes. Period. I have to pretty much do what I’m told to avoid setbacks. Meeting my writing goals has and will continue to take as long as it needs to take. My job is to do what the experts advise and remember that I’m not going to get to where I need to go if I stop moving forward.
So, as I recover from my surgery and look at my writing goals, again, I promise myself to be more patient and realistic about the time things often take, ask for help when I need to, and keep on truckin' down the road to publication.